Sunday School Notes: July 29, 2018

A WORKSHOP ON HOW TO BECOME A MATURE CHRISTIAN

 

Mature Christian people make better decisions, don=t get themselves into as much trouble, and they are happier people.

 

  1. TO BECOME A MATURE CHRISTIAN MEANS THAT YOU HAVE LEARNED HOW

TO DISCERN THE SPIRIT OF GOD PROMPTING YOU TO THINK, SPEAK, AND ACT

IN A MATURE WAY? John 14

 

In John 14, Jesus tells us that after He ascends back to Heaven, God would send believers another helper, The Holy Spirit. Each one of us, as believers, have the Holy Spirit as our helper. To help us know right from wrong. Help us to understand the Bible. To help us in living the Christian life.   A FEW WEEKS AGO I DID A LESSON ON HOW TO HEAR THE PROMPTINGS OF OUR HELPER, THE HOLY SPIRIT.

 

  1. TO BECOME A MATURE CHRISTIAN MEANS THAT YOU HAVE LEARNED HOW

TO CONTROL YOUR TONGUE. James 3:8

 

JAMES 3:8 SAYS, “THE TONGUE CANNOT BE TAMED AND THEREFORE NEEDS TO BE CONTROLED.”

 

III. LEARN THE SKILL OF DISCERNMENT

 

  1. Discernment is the ability to make accurate evaluations of words, actions, and attitudes

based on the wisdom and understanding of Scriptural principles.

 

Discernment is important in marriage.

 

Skill‑‑‑‑ the ability to use one’s knowledge effectively and readily in execution or performance.    We must not confuse skill and talent.

 

TO BECOME A MATURE CHRISTIAN, YOU MUST:

 

  1. LEARN TO HAVE A TRUE SPIRIT OF HUMILITY.

 

NOTICE THIS IMPORTANT VERSE as to why you should want to develop humility.

 

Prov. 22:4, “By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches and honor and life.” (NKJV)

 

Everyone wants riches, honor and life. Life being an enjoyable life by having a good family and career.

 

The Bible has much to say about humility.

 

Matt. 23:12, “And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” (NKJV)

 

James 4:6, “But He gives more grace. Therefore He says: ‘God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.’” (NKJV)

 

DO YOU WANT GOD RESISTING YOU? THEN DON=T LEARN TO BE HUMBLE.

 

James 4:10, “Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” (NKJV)

 

1 Peter 5:5, “Likewise you younger people, submit yourselves to your elders. Yes, all of you be submissive to one another, and be clothed with humility, for God resists the proud, but gives grace to the humble.” (NKJV)

 

1 Peter 5:6, “Therefore humble yourselves under the mighty hand of God, that He may exalt you in due time.” (NKJV)

 

AGAIN:

 

Prov. 22:4, “By humility and the fear of the LORD are riches and honor and life.” (NKJV)

 

DO YOU THINK THESE VERSES ARE REALLY TRYING TO TELL US SOMETHING?

 

Fear of the lord means that you respect God enough to obey Him and keep His commandments.

 

Humility means a humble view of one=s own importance.

 

  1. Humility is not always thinking about yourself but thinking about the needs of others.

Phil. 2:3

 

See this definition in Phil. 2:3.

 

Phil. 2:3-11, “Don’t be selfish; don’t live to make a good impression on others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourself. Don’t just think about your own affairs, but be interested in others, too, and in what they are doing. Your attitude should be the kind that was shown us by Jesus Christ, who, though he was God, did not demand and cling to his rights as God but laid aside his mighty power and glory, taking the disguise of a slave and becoming like men. And he humbled himself even further, going so far as actually to die a criminal’s death on a cross. Yet it was because of this that God raised him up to the heights of heaven and gave him a name which is above every other name, that at the name of Jesus every knee shall bow in heaven and on earth and under the earth, and every tongue shall confess that Jesus Christ is Lord, to the glory of God the Father.”

 

  1. How can we develop the skill of being humble?

 

I WANT TO SHOW YOU HOW TO DO THIS WITH YOUR BIOLOGICAL FAMILY.

 

ALL OF US HAVE SOME SORT OF FAMILY THAT WE RELATE TOO. THEN YOU CAN CARRY IT OVER TO YOUR FAMILY ON THE JOB, AND THEN TO YOUR FAMILY OF FRIENDS AND OTHER RELATIONSHIPS.

 

  1. Be humble by thinking of others before thinking of yourself.

 

How do you think of others?

 

  1. By not being selfish.

 

One of the complaints I hear a lot from wives is that their husband is selfish. AHe will go out and spend money on anything he wants, but he complains when I buy something I need.@

 

How do you think of others?

 

  1. By not trying to impress people.

 

Key Words are Atrying to impress.” TRYING TO IMPRESS PEOPLE‑‑‑‑‑ trying to make them think you are really SOMEBODY YOU REALLY ARE NOT.

 

I had a teenage boy tell me that his dad always came home from work telling the family how he stood up to the boss all the time, how he did not let the boss run over him like the other employees did… He said, “I know my Dad does not do that.”

 

If you meet someone one time, you may be able to impress them and cause them to think you are somebody you really are not. If you have to be around them very long, however, they will see your weaknesses.

 

In the home , you cannot really impress people ‑‑‑ sooner or later they will see you sweat and smell bad just like anybody else.

 

Humility is not trying to impress people. Humility is just trying to be a good person to be around. To be a fun person to be around.

 

 

Matt. 23:12, “And whoever exalts himself will be humbled, and he who humbles himself will be exalted.” (NKJV)

 

How do you think of others?

  1. By being interested in what others are doing.

 

If you want your children to like you, be humble by being interested in what they are doing.

 

How can we develop the skill of being humble?

  1. Be humble by not demanding your rights. Phil. 2:5

 

Phil. 2:5-9, “Your attitude should be the kind that was shown us by Jesus Christ,

who, though he was God, did not demand and cling to his rights as God, but laid aside his mighty power and glory, taking the disguise of a slave and becoming like men. And he humbled himself even further, going so far as actually to die a criminal’s death on a cross. Yet it was because of this that God raised him up to the heights of heaven and gave him a name which is above every other name.”

 

God exalts us when we are humble.

 

Think about it. When someone is always bragging on themselves, you don=t brag on them much, but if they don=t, you have a tendency to brag on them. You say something like, “Oh they are being way to humble about what they did. Let me tell you about what they did.”

 

Notice Phil. 2:6 says, “Jesus did not demand his rights.”

 

Most fights in the home start over feeling that someone has trampled on their rights, then trying to do something about it. A Humble person DOES NOT MAKE A BIG DEAL OUT OF IT. It is like saying, “WELL, NOBODY IS GOING TO WALK OVER ME.”

 

YES THEY ARE. GOD SAYS HE WILL.

 

James 4:6, “But he gives us more and more strength to stand against all such evil longings. As the Scripture says, ‘God gives strength to the humble but sets himself against the proud and haughty.’”

 

How can we develop the skill of being humble?

 

  1. Be humble by dying to self for the sake of others. Phil. 2:8

 

Phil. 2:8, “And he humbled himself even further, going so far as actually to die a criminal’s death on a cross.”

 

Thank God for a lot of wives who humble themselves and put up with a sorry husband for the sake of the children. They take a lot. My mother did. She could have said my dad coming home drunk was just too much and she could have divorced him. But it would have been harder on us children if she had.

 

James 4:10, “Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and He will lift you up.” (NKJV)

 

My Dad eventually left my mother, she took him back, but he finally left and did not want to come back. Then God brought a man into my mother@s life that was very good to her. She could buy anything she wanted. God exalted my mother.

 

 

  1. Some particular areas where we need to be humble:

 

  1. When we are wrong, admit it the right way.

 

 

  1. What keeps us from admitting we are wrong? Pride

 

‑ which is opposite of humility.

 

Not just admitting you were wrong but WORDING YOU WERE WRONG THE CORRECT WAY.

 

  1. Wrong ways to admit that you were wrong.

 

  1. “I was wrong, but you were too.”

 

  1. “I’m sorry about it, but it wasn’t all my fault.”

 

  1. If I’ve been wrong, please forgive me.”

 

This is people’s favorite. It is really saying, “If my personality for which I’m not responsible has offended you, then there must be something wrong with your ability to get along with others. But I will be big hearted and assume that maybe it is my fault and ask you to forgive me.

 

Correct Wording: GOD HAS CONVICTED ME OF HOW WRONG I >VE BEEN AND I ASK YOU TO FORGIVE ME.

 

  1. Most people do not have the natural talent of being humble. They have to learn to be

humble.

 

  1. There are two ways to learn to be humble:

 

  1. The hard way

 

This way is to make a fool of yourself by acting like a big shot and then people finding out you are just a little shot.

 

OR:

 

  1. God’s way

 

This way is to model your life after Jesus and let God exalt you.

 

When we learn and practice the skill of being humble, we will have a happier family.

We will be liked more on the job. God will promote us with other people. We will get along better with people. We will be liked by more people.

 

 

THE MOST BASIC QUALITY NEEDED TO GET ALONG WITH PEOPLE IS HUMILITY.

 

 

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